Are there really people in this world who were protected by parents, never inappropriately touched by them or family much others? I have a hard time parsing the sexual bad behavior of apparently mostly men on women because that's not my story. Was your family safe and protective?

Dec 5, 2017 · 6:23 AM UTC

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Replying to @mholzschlag
Mom and dad split when I was 2 1/2. I’ve never seen my dad. I was sexually molested by a babysitter at 7 and raped at 10. At 9 my mom married my step father who used to beat me, sometimes to unconsciousness. Went to 10 different schools before graduating high school a year early.
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Despite our sociopolitical POVs being very different, this comment here and shared long-term chronic serious illness are at least two very strong reasons we remain compatible at core as friends.
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country or world? culture or people? I'm conflicted because I don't relate to any of it and I am forming a theory this is part of my own conflicts with protected/privileged people with no idea of the evils that seem normal to some of us.
Replying to @mholzschlag
Yes it was. And my parents protect and support me to this day. As do most parents of everyone I know from India. The problem there can be of overprotectiveness (not my case). I never knew of the extent of dysfunction in families until I came to the US. It is very sad.
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I'm glad you have that. I wonder about the U.S. thing. My parents were first gen immigrants and came from one hell and made another. We do what we know I guess.
Replying to @mholzschlag
My family was not
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With ya kiddo. So sorry my friend. Not a good way to start life.
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Replying to @mholzschlag
Probably too much sometimes to protect me, but they have to let me find stuff out somehow. It’s like letting a 6 year old ride a bike: to learn, they need to fall off to learn how to ride. It’s the same when adults drive a car.
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Fair enough and true in a general parenting context. I'm not remotely talking about letting you fall of your bike to learn to ride it, however.
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Replying to @mholzschlag
I’d rather not discuss this in a public space.
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Privacy is personal. You don't need to answer personal questions. I do this for reasons I've explained many times. It is my approach, others can participate or not as they want or don't. I respect that right greatly - you choose what's right for you.
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