Is there a happier perspective than "teh suck" for times when you want to do things you used to do with ease and loved but can no longer do?

Yes, everyday. However, I choose to dwell on what I can do.

I'm phasing into that. It is a process, at least for me. For you?

Scoliosis a problem all my life. Selective Service rated me as 4-F, but i challenged the ruling & spent 4 yrs in AF. Won't let pain rule me.

The most brutal aspect of my grieving is his falls and finding him unconscious and paralyzed in his own waste. He was a proud man. Broke me.

The hardest part of pride is admitting that you need help. I constantly battle this problem. Pride is the reason I hide my pain.