Do you mind if I share an alternative framing?

I would love it if you did. Spread it around through your own words like butter spreads when melted

My thinking is that people who suffer from extended periods of grief deserve additional support if nothing else to help manage it. I can understand how the label of disorder might feel reductive or insulting, but people also find solace in understanding what is happening to them

I think whether it's good or bad depends on how we help people who fall under this label and I don't necessarily see it was a tool to insult or diminish someone, but I do understand that if you're not getting the help you need that it might feel like a negative thing.

I've been thinking about this Kelly. You are hyper-real and I so appreciate that perspective. To the point that I believe it's an art form. I'd love to understand if that helps you. Do you experience loss as distantly as it seems to me? I may be misreading due to lack of cues.

What I'm trying to say is that something being labeled a disorder doesn't mean that it doesn't make sense. The idea of a disorder is that it's something that lowers the quality of life for the person who experiences it and they need additional treatment to improve their life.

As far as how I experience grief or loss, I'd say that I am probably more sensitive than most people I've encountered. I take things very seriously and I find it hard to move on from things that happened long ago.

At the same time, I've been through enough grief inducing experiences that I've become somewhat numb to the bad things that happen. It's not that I don't care, but I operate on the understanding that any day can bring destruction of what I find dear.

Sometimes it comes off like I'm detached when negative things happen to people, but it's not really that so much as just that I expect it and I know that we have a lot of things to live for despite our grief.

I agree with you that grief doesn't just go away, but I do think that people deserve to not wallow in misery. I think the people we've lost would not want us to be perpetually miserable and so I think that we owe it to them and ourselves to try to come to terms with things.