How can loving, dressing, speaking differently even be a diagnostic problem of behavior if you hurt no one? If you take nothing not offered? Oh maybe it's because you're rich or famous or have something that makes your disordered human reality better than ours?

Something can be defined as a disability if it's seen as something that will affect someone's life activities. An example I've seen in the explanations is a large, noticable birthmark seen as a disability for the individual, even if the individual doesn't see it as a disability.