Do you mean in terms of being an extension of a parent that's an important conversation I think it relates to narcissists quite frequently but it is a distortion of Parental responsibility to only see your child as extension of self and it gives rise to abuse sometimes

Creepy weird it seems they wish to not support their kids rather validate each other through bias and perpetuation of a passive-aggressive method that does not support you or them in the long run but separates, abuses, denies all a happier way of life without estrangement.

So it sounds to me as if your mother is using support to either validate her own belief or suspicion that this was done to you as opposed to is you set up partner would do that that you don't have your own agency to determine that is narcissism to appoint oneself above anyone.

Sorry if that didn't come out clear I meant to say that the Assumption or belief that a partner did this to you rather than it being a choice you made based on your independent agency as an adult child narcissism and disrespect. Is she the primary focal point of everything?

Unfortunately I've known more than typical and comparative to overall statistics of both narcissistic personality and Psychopaths aren't I lucky LOL but there are certain Dynamics to be on the lookout for as adult children especially creatives who are highly empathetic there is

I thought if I could do something that truly made her proud and happy SHE would feel better. Not me. Her. No matter as most narcissists are limited as to when or even if they noticed much less care you did that and though our intent might be good it leads to sorrow or depression.