I was raised as a doll not a person I still found a way to be a person. I was raised to be an extension of another human being like a piece of Adam's Rib from my mother and still I'm a completely independent thinker. We are not always simple often paradoxical.
Do you mean in terms of being an extension of a parent that's an important conversation I think it relates to narcissists quite frequently but it is a distortion of Parental responsibility to only see your child as extension of self and it gives rise to abuse sometimes
Creepy weird it seems they wish to not support their kids rather validate each other through bias and perpetuation of a passive-aggressive method that does not support you or them in the long run but separates, abuses, denies all a happier way of life without estrangement.
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So it sounds to me as if your mother is using support to either validate her own belief or suspicion that this was done to you as opposed to is you set up partner would do that that you don't have your own agency to determine that is narcissism to appoint oneself above anyone.
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Sorry if that didn't come out clear I meant to say that the Assumption or belief that a partner did this to you rather than it being a choice you made based on your independent agency as an adult child narcissism and disrespect. Is she the primary focal point of everything?
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Unfortunately I've known more than typical and comparative to overall statistics of both narcissistic personality and Psychopaths aren't I lucky LOL but there are certain Dynamics to be on the lookout for as adult children especially creatives who are highly empathetic there is
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Replying to @mholzschlag @Bri_seven
Growing evidence or surely anecdotes about what is being referred to as the hyper empathetic child or hyper empath of a narcissistic mother and it's specifically can be damaging between the mother-daughter Dynamic. I spent a lifetime thinking of ways to please her not for myself.

Mar 1, 2022 · 11:05 AM UTC