Friend responsed to bias Q. Was aadopted but refused by almost all as family. One elder: 'love don't go outside blood.' I'd be crying still but saw pic of Dad arriving for planned shared search for OG birth family. Help me out. Is adoption for some a twisted form of charity? WTF?

Saying something like that must be traumatizing for a child 💔 I say some grow in the womb, others grow in the heart. We plan to adopt out of love. And if any elders or anyone else in the family says something like that I won’t consider them family.

My great-grandparents refused to believe Mom was actually ‘darling Robby’s’ child - their ‘dear Robby’ would never have out-of-wedlock sex, especially with a Protestant. My mother looks exactly like her father. 😑

She never forgot their treatment. Her younger sister got presents and love, but never her.