Friend responsed to bias Q. Was aadopted but refused by almost all as family. One elder: 'love don't go outside blood.' I'd be crying still but saw pic of Dad arriving for planned shared search for OG birth family. Help me out. Is adoption for some a twisted form of charity? WTF?
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Saying something like that must be traumatizing for a child 💔 I say some grow in the womb, others grow in the heart. We plan to adopt out of love. And if any elders or anyone else in the family says something like that I won’t consider them family.
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My great-grandparents refused to believe Mom was actually ‘darling Robby’s’ child - their ‘dear Robby’ would never have out-of-wedlock sex, especially with a Protestant. My mother looks exactly like her father. 😑
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Replying to @foughfibre @pusle
UGH. This is why I wondered about twisted charity. It stinks of extremist, rigid beliefs. Did your Mom thrive and if yes/no, may I ask how she coped?

Jul 6, 2021 · 10:00 PM UTC

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Replying to @mholzschlag @pusle
Well…grandpa was accidentally killed in boot camp in 1945 & grandma, raising 2 children alone in 1940s, became an alcoholic so…Mom coped. Whenever the girls got farmed out to family when grandma was drying out, she could not stay with her father’s family. It left a scar.
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Tough stuff. And, here you are, expressing a range of deep emotional understanding of and about and for her life. She knew love somehow, because you know it too. Keep it alive, we have to.
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