If you’re suffering somewhere don’t stay silent. Finding that there are others experiencing the same at the hands of abusers (often leadership) is remarkably liberating.

Prior to Trump's campaign and presidency I would probably have strongly agreed with your statement since then things have happened that made me realize how complicated grouping and naming people is and how wrong we can be and how much harm we can do to each other because of it.

The hyper focus on my last name as being related to me in any way genetically. It was in a simulation. The same is true of the anglicisation of my first name. The second is women who pursue academics over romance. I've heard such crap out of people's faces in the past few years!

And it isn't just men doing that at least to me regarding academics. Women often suggest taking off my wedding ring as it's coming up four years of widowhood, put on a dress, lipstick, find a man and use him. I find that shocking and new to my experience! How about you?

I’ve had “friends” tell me the name who raped me actually liked me, and I was sabotaging to not let it go that he didn’t listen when I said no. There are people who don’t have our values. It takes courage and confidence to stand our ground.