A new definition for privilege of any race in the United States would be a believes that the police are here to serve and protect, and the idea that anywhere is safe. For me and so many this is not a theory. my criminal record consists of two speeding tickets in 58 years of life.

The violence I know would scare most coddled humans and this is one reason I'm afraid to write Memoirs as people have asked because it would be so fucking shocking to the mild-mannered and well- born. And that violence came at the hands of my own family and those they let take me

I'd lay odds that those of us who grew up with white and class privilege are a lot more likely to suffer violence from family than from police. And then there's the medical trauma from the assumption that women's medical problems are imaginary.

Because of what you say about women. Because I just lost my husband I was fired from the last job I had my mother was dying craziest she was I loved her I was depressed. a welfare check meant breaking into my house and surrounding a sleeping woman at gunpoint ready to shoot her.

My impression, looking back at my environment and family, is that telling anyone about the violence was a worse crime than inflicting it. Years later I discovered I wasn't the only one at my private school who dealt with that kind of thing.