One issue with ableism is diminishing, increasing and comparing pain. People often talk about conditions they suffer and apologize for my "worse" issues. Or, diminish issues "it can't be that bad you're so energetic" avoid with me. Pain is pain and suffering just sucks full stop.

I'd rather be well than be an "inspiration" any day.

Agree except if I can inspire as educator, friend, helper - as service and empathy. My husband and my once partner in music crimes were wheelchair bound and got such bullshit for "being independent" or my friend "A girl with a guitar, and that voice, inspirational!" Judgement sux

Oh, sure. But I don't want to inspire people just because I didn't off myself when I became chronically ill.