Speaking of identity, Mom never forgave me for keeping the last name I've kept and not taking her family name when they divorced. Kafka. I tried it on, personality fit well, name just did not (yes, maternal lineage to sister of Franz Kafka - explains a lot about me, and how!)
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Wow. One of mine wanted to take my family name in the same situation, and I was like - that's cool, but I'm 100% leaving it to you to take your time, sort your feelings, and do as you wish.
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Replying to @accessamy
To make my mother happy was only possible for me when I sang or got a degree. She was impossible to please. She was more extreme than I ever have been, and very mean. Diagnosed Narcissist but high functioning with sparks of beautiful. Hyperverbal intensity, made me look comatose.

Jan 23, 2021 路 7:16 PM UTC

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Replying to @mholzschlag
I've noticed your writing about her at various times. They never leave us, mothers. The dialogue is forever.
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Oh my dear you said it in one word. Mothers. They don't leave us as long as we live and maybe after who know! Oy vey.
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