I’m curious - Who of you have been called kiddo as an adult? As someone who is nearly 40 I have been called kiddo repeatedly in professional settings increasing as I’ve grown older. Can someone help me understand why this is such a common name men use towards grown women?
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Actually I use it a lot I didn't realize I was being rude or demeaning it's a form of affection to me. I also still use the word girl which upsets a lot of my women friends but I like it it keeps me young. All humans have bias and I'm no exception. Thanks for the challenging idea
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A good example of our beautiful complexities as humans! No simple answers as it’s so situational. A good reminder for me to check in with my relationships, get curious about others and to advocate if I need something different.
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The fact that you asked at all proves that I wish people would be more forthcoming and honest it would just simplify things and also it's more expedient. You don't want something you say no that's it done no interpretation no over-analysis what did he mean by that? Hate that! :-)
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I appreciate you sharing your perspective. Related: I don’t feel an affinity to professional groups that use the word “girl” in the title, especially when they advocate for women in tech. If girl is in the title then I assume the group serves K-12.
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No doubt a contentious term these days when used to describe women. I do it. It feels youthful when I don't! I don't like to use language to offend unless intended. In common, not-at-work speech do you think we should step up women in place of girl? For tech and dignity, I woud.
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I prefer non-gendered terms overall both personal and professional spaces, but if the specifics call to gender then I think the term woman “lifts up” more than girl. A girl is a child without work experience.
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As a semanticist I totally agree. As a member of social and ethnic groups that use "girl" as a term of endearment, it slips out at 57 years old and I'm unaware. Thanks for the insight, so appreciated!
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I get it! I’ve supported Girls in Tech and the like, but when asked I bring it up. I’ve been using “folks” for over 20 yrs and it was considered homely / out of style then, but it’s back now. 🌈
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Replying to @RachelRecruitin @sarahnollwilson
Ha! I use "folk" and "folks" now too, all the time. It's also to me an affectionate and friendly word. That helps as I can use that more ofen and soften the "girl" message. Normally I wouldn't, but Dr. Biden's experience bothers me deeply and I want to help restore all dignity.

Dec 13, 2020 · 6:38 PM UTC