Question: What events or situations have been the source of your greatest life losses and suffering? I really want to know as I want to engage with only those capable of true empathy lest my worst fear is made manifest: This loving joyous, optimistic girl becomes bitter stone.

Feb 10, 2020 · 9:58 PM UTC

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Replying to @mholzschlag
My mother death when I was 17. 32 years ago. I still miss her.
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As I wrote the other day about my husband and stupid advice about just remarrying to 'move on' from more conventional people than I? There is no time limit on grief. Mother/child tends to be a particularly complex and difficult one across most of the natural world.
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Replying to @mholzschlag
Wrong diagnosis ended my father's life from a simple easily treatable illness. Big brother also passed from a simple easily treatable illness. Also wrongly diagnosed. Found out after they passed what the actual illnesses were - it was something a simple search could have shown.
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TOO close to my bone marrow. I'm so sorry. I am 57 who has been bleeding her whole life. It took 50 years to get it right. Healthcare where? I feel this one deeply. I'm so sorry.
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Replying to @mholzschlag @EmmaJ_PR
The death of my father at 61, and my cat two days later. You never get over it. But then, my dad died doing something he loved and my cat was 17. I don’t think my suffering can compare to many others’.
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one of the chapters is called share don't compare. It spoke directly to this issue my pain can't be as bad as your pain. I've heard this a million times in my life and I know that it's incomparable you cannot feel what I feel and I cannot feel what you feel completely.
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Replying to @mholzschlag
My dad had a brain aneurysm in 2004 (he 'survived' until 2010 if you can call it that) the bit I regret is I deliberately avoided him the day before it happened because I was angry at him for something.
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Woah can I relate to that! What I could have done but didn't do are the true regrets. And yet, it happens to many people to the point it's a standard in grief counseling to address! Would have, could have, should have. It's agonizing and yet he lives on in you NO MATTER WHAT!
Replying to @mholzschlag
There is no way my life, or most people's I know, has tested me to the extent that yours has you. That said, I know what it is to battle mental demons, to own a brain capable of self-deceit. I explained it in an essay I wrote after Robin Williams died: scottfultononpoint.com/in-pr…
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Replying to @mholzschlag
My years of alcoholism being untreated resulting in the greatest loss I ever had. A relationship w/a woman that didn’t deserve to be treated like I treated her. I got too comfortable, I took advantage of her, then I lost her. I’m still not over what I have done. 21 years later.
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