Thanks for the kind thoughts for my birthday. I know I can look at it a different way, but I'm not there yet. For me, it represents the joy I felt when my husband Ray was in inpatient rehab at the V.A. and actually walked with support as a gift for me. 12 days later he was dead.

I'm traumatinzed. People keep saying "three years is long enough to mourn, move on. Find a husband. Blah blah blah." No. Not anyone's right to put false limitation on grief and loss and anyone who tried should be ashamed. So grateful for your love, my friends. I'm hurting bad.