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What does your instinct tell you about why her reaction to transitioning is so WOAH sure. Is it her that she's struggling with or is it you or is it both or more or not that at all I wonder. I'm curious as maternal relationships well my mom the best and worst of everything in her
Anyway interesting stuff I'm not totally sold on empathy disorder versus order it's like saying hey Jesus you love too much stop that man it's not good for you your dad is a narcissist OMG it's true Jesus is hyperempathic the father malignant narcissist "no other before me!" whoa
I thought if I could do something that truly made her proud and happy SHE would feel better. Not me. Her. No matter as most narcissists are limited as to when or even if they noticed much less care you did that and though our intent might be good it leads to sorrow or depression.
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Growing evidence or surely anecdotes about what is being referred to as the hyper empathetic child or hyper empath of a narcissistic mother and it's specifically can be damaging between the mother-daughter Dynamic. I spent a lifetime thinking of ways to please her not for myself.
Unfortunately I've known more than typical and comparative to overall statistics of both narcissistic personality and Psychopaths aren't I lucky LOL but there are certain Dynamics to be on the lookout for as adult children especially creatives who are highly empathetic there is
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Sorry if that didn't come out clear I meant to say that the Assumption or belief that a partner did this to you rather than it being a choice you made based on your independent agency as an adult child narcissism and disrespect. Is she the primary focal point of everything?
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So it sounds to me as if your mother is using support to either validate her own belief or suspicion that this was done to you as opposed to is you set up partner would do that that you don't have your own agency to determine that is narcissism to appoint oneself above anyone.
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Creepy weird it seems they wish to not support their kids rather validate each other through bias and perpetuation of a passive-aggressive method that does not support you or them in the long run but separates, abuses, denies all a happier way of life without estrangement.
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Interesting sounds a little more borderline then narcissist but still cluster B and hovering near each there is a lot of overlap but in my diagnosed mom's case she added antisocial characteristics except toward her children and respective partners. Borderlines are very difficult.
Good ideas all yet you've adapted I wonder about people who have not learned those techniques sometimes asking for things is the hardest thing to do.
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I told Bri this confounds me as a woman told constantly to stop trying to be like a man. not A man but LIKE one? Is that just describing me the way other people expect versus the truth? I'm Jersey badass loud empathetic friendly not trying to be a man just fail to understand.
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Great memory of biochem Prof who would harass female students late to class. I was late, in pain still undiagnosed bleeds grouchy and irritable yet out of mouth fuck you Dr L. My classmates we're shocked but he befriended me until he died! He said no one but me ever smacked back.
Women beating a little boy in store people ignoring. Out of me loud scream stop that now right now. I placed my body between hers and his touched no one. never have. Security cuffed me yelled at me to calm down and let her drag the boy out by his hair. Las Vegas Justice nice huh?
It's not easy. Try 10 years of holding your tongue listening to how some perceive the USA. Multiculturalism? Gender? Ability? No problem use a pilgrim image. It's America! oh my my Jersey girl hood rat rant is still requested at parties. Most hilarious first and last firing ever!
Oh I get in a lot of trouble. I speak loudly clearly and forcefully when inspired and my mother would in later years get worried about my mouth knowing where I got it LOL she took pride in my work for open web, human rights and global ideals inspired much by her Progressive work.
That's a good one there are some really funny stories I can remember of first sightings of early weird places to see urls I should make it a top question for fun too distract people from World awful 2 remembering World Wide Wonder.
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Heartbreak. Dad, US Army Korea. Purple heart, broken brain, friend's bones in his spine. Ray. Navy corpsman Vietnam. Cambodia? China? War no no military police action. Lost impossible! Nixon was Not a Crook write and Vietnam was not our first televised serial reality TV.
I think for some it's just so refreshing after a lot of ass-kissers. With Gates the only people he invited back from our first meet were the two women who challenged him! Male behavior in those environments can often turn juvenile. Most everyone else was Pasty and privileged alas
It is interesting that the powerful, wealthy captains of industry, when challenged by passionate ethnic woman in an unrelenting exchange with that man scares the crap out of many or makes them really uncomfortable or ashamed that I wasn't polite. Except for the powerful man!
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