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I was just speaking with a friend about this very thing that building walls I thought would protect me actually have kept me away from the very actions that allow empathy and kindness to flow from me and to me and to us all. There is only one way out of grief and that's love.
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Truly helpful thoughts Kelly. Very much where my process is going. Focusing on what I do that helps and is outwardly focused as opposed to inwardly obsessed. Pain and loss cause damage that can be so consuming it consumes us if we don't adapt. you're adapting and that's powerful.
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It's a new way of thinking for me and this is what I am grateful for in friends and friends of friends that we are able to teach each other or remind each other of different ways of looking at the situation. Flipping the script works great for me it seems a proven method of care.
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I found that in general to be true for me. When I first came back to Arizona after too many years of tremendous loss in family and friends and life I lived on a ranch for a while and it was really healing be around animals and natural world.
I have always equated self-esteem and productivity that is constructive and useful for other people a Hallmark of success in my life and in my being as an identity. I've lost so much of that Focus. You nailed it Sarah I have a lot of self negation from believing I must produce.
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You have a quiet wisdom engraved inside my dear I forget how much comfort I have taken at times and rereading favorite books. So I'm going to reread a favorite book! Thank you Sarah :-)
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That is wonderful! Thank you for that honesty and open model of being. I cannot imagine a better way forward out of the mountain of lies and vitriol humans have created instead of a world of care and kindness that is true to the heart.
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I like that. Flipping the script on myself can sometimes bring about great breakthroughs. I do know that giving to rather than taking from has always helped me. I just have to figure out how and what to give with the spoons I have at any given moment, and that's a roller coaster!
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Thank you for your work and for letting me know about your project. I wish you well and hope it brings relief for many people. Good works deserve honoring, I honor your commitment to improving life. I hope you are doing this out of care and not just greed, a sad but true reality.
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LOL! Where's "there" when there's no here? ;-) I don't know where I'll get but I don't want to stay frozen. I've been frozen as I don't know whether to refind my shattered identity or rebuild from scratch. I get caught in between and am frozen in my own frozen! It's a trap! ThxU
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you managing that? Are you finding specific points of what you stand for rather than against and what that process is like for you? I'm taking all advice into consideration that is from the truth of a person rather than the palliative pap smeared over humanity like acid rain. :)
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I'm thinking of how to manage what I can manage and a few things pop out, the topmost being that when we join together for a good cause we can bring great change. So I want to be present for the good folks who are that way to me, to help and focus outward what I am able. How are
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I'm working on this too. I think it in part involves trusting people and a world that I have no trust in, to find a safe place when I know there is no such thing - it's hard for me to be less than hyperreal as your apt moniker applies to me as well. I do agree focus is required.
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When told to not take everything so seriously I think I get very angry because I hear "stop caring about life and cruelty and wrongness" and that is not who I am nor who I will ever choose to be. I prefer to care, even if it means to be in pain. For me, apathy is not an option.
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It's the high price of life extension therapies that did save and extend life, but weren't explained and can't be as it's unknown, uncharted territory. I am supposed to be grateful even when in fear? That's hard for anyone, I imagine.
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It is annoying but it's been found to not be any threat beyond my existing condition so I deal with it until my brain tucks it away. It's obvious at certain times more than others. But if others have floaters and flashes, could mean retinal detachment should be looked at!
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I think we're all in a world of trauma and pain and it sucks and I'm sorry because I don't think most of us feeling this way perpetrated it but are victims of vitriol, hate and externals we internalize from empathy, not apathy #WithYou
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Tom: It is absolutely hypervigilance you have a good therapist I take it! - finally I got in to see a trauma therapist thursday for EMDR etc (which has helped a lot in the past). Took 18 months and it's May 14th before the neuropsych is available at all, sick of itself. :(
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Thank you and sorry re that buzzing awful. My brother has that, Mom had both. I had a few moments of pain, some double vision, a lot of exhaustion and frayed emotions but been much worse in terms of actual medical condition. I'll be fine if the world turned nice for a while. :/
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