I've noticed in my life that when I've felt hopeless and like I couldn't go on, the people who've said "Oh get over yourself and toughen up!" have actually done more for me than those who however well intentioned probably let me stay on the phone too long describing my despair.
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“Oh get over yourself…” sounds more hostile than supportive. It completely lacks empathy. I certainly would not anyone who spoke to me like that as a friend.
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Replying to @BettyMB2
I hear you, but there are times when the most loving thing is to support someone - including ourselves - in claiming our strength even when we don't think we have it in us. Sometimes that's the truest form of support.

May 5, 2022 · 4:42 AM UTC

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Replying to @marwilliamson @BettyMB2
You are, to say the least, an unusual person with unusual strengths. I would not want to generalize your response to anybody else. Most people don't tell what they think is The Truth to audiences of thousands-- or, um run for President of the United States.
Replying to @marwilliamson @BettyMB2
But you can't get away with this kind of talk unless you know somebody well enough to know they trust your love as well as your steel.
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Replying to @marwilliamson
If you want to remind someone of their strength you can simply state other instances in their life where they’ve demonstrated their strength. I’ve had friends do that and it truly helped me. People often need that reminder.
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