I've noticed in my life that when I've felt hopeless and like I couldn't go on, the people who've said "Oh get over yourself and toughen up!" have actually done more for me than those who however well intentioned probably let me stay on the phone too long describing my despair.

Love you Marianne, but disagree with you on that. “Get over yourself, toughen up” (ie: the ol’ “suck it up buttercup”) is about all the help I ever got. It wasn’t, and still isn’t, helpful in any way.