1/3 Madame, you’re still with the despair nonsense?👀 You & the one size fits all crowd. Feeling pain is a universal trait, but everyone’s pain is unique. A body’s pain wiring is a universal pattern, but it’s nooks & cranny are like individual finger prints, no two’s ever alike.

Surprised that you would say that sort of victim blamey thing, or respond to it positiviely. I think it's toxic. I'm a clinical psychologist and have done much repair work with people who have internalized that sort of moralistic though "well meaning" bit of nonsense.

Disagree. I like empathic friends.

Best way to get over despair is to help others.

The ones who let you stay on the phone too long also want every kid to get a trophy, no score keeping so that a 'winner' is not declared & no grades in class so that the dumber ones don't feel bad abt themselves. Then these fragile over confident beings are turned loose on us 🙃

So basically, pull yourself up by your bootstraps…

For me, I let myself sink until the pain is almost unbearable. It's like lancing a wound, you need to get all the pus out.

Yes ... I think that's true of all of us!

It only works if you don’t make the same mistake. How many times did you vote democrat in your life and what did you get in return?

“Tough love” coupled with encouragement is definitely more productive than sitting in a toxic soup of self pity. But the encouragement HAS to be there.