I've noticed in my life that when I've felt hopeless and like I couldn't go on, the people who've said "Oh get over yourself and toughen up!" have actually done more for me than those who however well intentioned probably let me stay on the phone too long describing my despair.

May 5, 2022 · 4:20 AM UTC

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Replying to @marwilliamson
there are other options than the lack of nuance going on here
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lol it's a tweet
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There's value in both. Sometimes we need to vent before we can go on getting over it.
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True. It's understanding that point where processing turns into spewing and working through something can turn into self-indulgence.
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“Oh get over yourself…” sounds more hostile than supportive. It completely lacks empathy. I certainly would not anyone who spoke to me like that as a friend.
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I hear you, but there are times when the most loving thing is to support someone - including ourselves - in claiming our strength even when we don't think we have it in us. Sometimes that's the truest form of support.
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Love you Marianne, but disagree with you on that. “Get over yourself, toughen up” (ie: the ol’ “suck it up buttercup”) is about all the help I ever got. It wasn’t, and still isn’t, helpful in any way.
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If no one ever honored your feelings at all, I can understand how that would be true.
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some don’t have that choice. if you think the hopelessness of this moment has nothing to do with brianne dressen and the other mostly women like her, you don’t know what moment we’re in.
Senator Ron Johnson
 @SenRonJohnson
28 Jun 2021
They just want to be seen, heard and believed. Brianne Dressen jumped at the chance to be in the clinical trial for the Covid vaccine. Now she says she is "collateral damage of the pandemic."
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