The system is designed that way and we enable. Have you learned about MMT? Read The Deficit Myth? It would be so great if you could join in trying to get people educated in that. Once they understand that it is NOT the only choice, people might choose against contempt as policy.

It’s always a good thing and always pays off :)

It started in the 60s after Freud’s psychoanalysis failed and a culture of the individual emerged out of California is counterculture (Century of the Self documentary on YouTube). then became the self-esteem movement in the 80s and in the 90s narcissism epidemic began.

I didn't know it was a bad thing.

When they are illegal aliens.

It's not. Each individual is free to help another individual voluntarily. Making it a political thing or using coercion through the state is what's bad.

I don't get it. I want to see people thrive, seeing people suffer hurts my heart.

When "helping" one group hurts another group. Or to use the cliché: "Road to hell is paved with good intentions". Many times hypocrisy is disguised as altruism or virtue signaling to gain power over people. Stalin had good intentions too - but not for all.

When you started stealing from other people to "help."

“.We repudiated aristocracy in 1776, and what has happened is that we have regressed...” Marianne Williamson