I have an argument with a friend where I support free college, Medicare4All, Green New Deal etc. & she tells me we need an "incremental approach;" that such things are "too far left." I tell her they're centrist in Europe.She says "We're not Europe." I bang my head against a wall

That person should be downgraded to, "acquaintance."

Nope. Good friend.

Eh. I can't be close with people who are selfish enough to argue against basic rights for others. But eh, good for you I guess.

She's not selfish at all. We just see things differently.

What if she wanted to continue slavery? Where do ppl like you draw the line? At some point you either bend towards your integrity or your friendship. Fence straddling never served any movement for real change.